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DNA wahala. A tale that went viral last weekend showed a father sobbing uncontrollably after DNA tests indicated that none of his four children were his real children.
When questioned why he conducted the DNA tests, he stated that he suspected his wife of “impure ways” and chose to conduct a DNA test on his first child.
When the result came back negative, he then decided to do same on the rest of his children and all came out negative.
When the wife was approached for her response, all she kept saying was “I don’t accept the result. I don’t accept it because I was not there when they took samples, and I don’t know which sample they took, so I don’t accept it. I can’t accept it because I know how I conceived those children.”
Isn’t it time for the ‘know your fertility status before marriage’ campaign to begin in earnest, given the myriad DNA nightmares that are befalling males in marriage?
Before marriage, people discover their genotype on their own.
So, why aren’t men subjecting themselves to necessary fertility tests before marriage?
It is incorrect for people to wait until after marriage to find out if they are capable of producing children. several people are unaware of their reproductive status until they have been in a childless marriage for several years.
It is not a death sentence for men who are unable to father a kid.
Knowing your reality allows you to make educated decisions regarding your future.
Of all the blocks that such courageous efforts can get off your path, falling victim to a hopeless adulterer comes tops.
The lamentations from DNA nightmares are disturbingly getting louder but what I find ridiculous is that some of these wailing men actually know they can’t father a child and yet they married a hot-blooded young lady!
Perhaps you’re hoping for a miracle?
Life isn’t always as complicated as we make it out to be.
However, the most effective strategy to avoid unnecessary tension is to summon the strength to confront your reality, whatever it may be.
A truth that you are unwilling to face does not serve you well.
In times past, our culture made provisions for men who cannot father a child to take their destinies in their own hands.
Such men would willingly allow the wife to get pregnant outside and the children become theirs.
Culturally, any child that is raised under a man’s roof belongs to him.
If you can adopt a child that you know neither of the parents, why is it hard to embrace the child that your own spouse had with someone else?
In our culture, there is simply a lot to think about.
A lady stated to me some years ago that she didn’t realize her father didn’t father her and her sibling till the man died.
Her mother revealed the discovery to her during an afternoon of “just gisting,” according to her.
The woman said she had stayed in the marriage for about 11 years without fruit of the womb, despite marrying at age 16.
It was her own mother that eventually arranged for their married family friend to get her pregnant and that was how she was able to birth the two daughters that became the apple of the man’s eyes.
To me, the man died a happy man, knowing he had children but not knowing that those children were not biologically his.
The Bible says, “Wisdom is profitable to direct.” And a lot of wisdom is embedded in some of our culture.